“Good fences make good neighbors,” wrote Robert Frost, but he didn’t mean it. Sometimes the best boundaries are ones that are clear, but not too hard to get through.
What boundaries have you created in life which allow you both the connection and the privacy you need?
Robert Frost is attributed with the line, but this is not the theme of the poem, nor, I think, the message he meant for readers. The only other line repeated in the poem is, “Something there is that doesn’t love a wall.” I like this line because leaves me wondering about all that is meant by this line, all the things the desire the breaking down of walls, of barriers, of ways that we find ourselves yearning to be together.
In all relationships there need to be boundaries. Mine vary depending upon the relationship. As a therapist my boundaries are more fence like and tighter. In my friendships boundaries are still there but more transparent and I allow my self to be more vulnerable. In my partnership there are still boundaries so that it is clear that each of us is an individual as well as part of a whole.