Sometimes it happens that you are cruising along through life, headed down your usual path, when there turns out to be a huge sink-hole that was never there before. Illness, accident, death, divorce—even childbirth or a relationship you never expected, can leave you with your wheels in the air and the wind knocked out of you.
What has helped you to get back on solid ground when life has left you jack-knifed?
Two times in my life I have known that each person to whom I’m referring was going to die soon. However, when the death occurred, I was not ready to accept that it had happened. At the first time, I was working again after the memorial service and driving to a business appointment in a far place in the state and I found myself crying over and over as I drove. It was a time when I was alone and able to let my feelings pour out when I was alone. At the second death, I had just left the hospital and come home for the night, when the call came for me that he had died, I remember screaming at the top of my lungs in an empty house , never realizing that I could scream so loudly and with so much agony in my cry. Then I called a friend to accompany me to the hospital to have one last visit with him. These were both reactions that then allowed me to accept these deaths and go on with my life.